Out of Town Wedding. Am I rude?
So a short back story....I dated my hubby in high school. Broke up and moved to NC for 9 years. And just now moved back to NJ. We've remained close friends over the years and after dating for a year now that I am back in NJ, we did the deed at the courthouse. We had our reasons for doing this. But our family does not know and now I am planning a wedding. We are limited as to the amount we can spend. Here in the NJ/Philadelphia are it is very expensive. So I want to have the wedding at a Mountain Resort in NC. The actual cost of the wedding is much cheaper. But I can't help but feel bad for asking 40 some guests to take time off work and drive 8 hours out of town for us. But I really feel that this is the wedding that I really want. I want to do it in NC.
What is the ettiquite on this subject?
Thanks for all inputs :)