It's SD13's birthday coming up this Sunday.
BM usually doesn't let FDH see kids on birthdays, when he asks they're all booked up, if he doesn't ask then BM says it's because FDH can't be bothered. You can't win and the outcome is always the same.
But this time SD13 has asked to come over for dinner on her birthday, how nice. BM always hammers them about how parents should be flexible (and then interrupts our weekend with her plans) so she had to allow SD's to come over.
FDH re-confirmed with SD13 last week, just to make sure it was still on. It was and so we've organised the family to come over, it's all good.
Phonecall from SD13 last night. BM has organised to go to the movies on Sunday night, surprise surprise, so she can't come over anymore, she's busy now all day and night.
Of course the movies can be organised for another time, and we've already got family invited, plans made and everything. But it's not going to happen because once BM decides she's not coming..well, she's not coming.
BM is always and forever wanting to make the point that FDH has no say because he's not important like she is, and showing FDH that SD13 rather goes to movies with her then comes to our place. This is all about BM confirming for herself that she's most important.
SD has now asked to come on Monday so that is what we're doing, there's no point trying to talk reason with BM and allow SD13 to come on Sunday. And pressuring SD is not what we want to do so we re-schedule the family for Monday.
BM is making life really difficult at the moment, for all of us. And what will be next? We can never plan anything or look forward to anything, and everything is always stressful till the last minute, this lady is wearing us down, seriously. I cannot imagine the stresslevels for the kids, the pressure.
Just venting, and now I'm done.