OK so BM texted dh saying "you need to stick up for dd she says (sd friend) is always bullying her they shouldnt play together anymore" ok this is my neighbors daughter. They play (sd her friend and friends little sister) EVERYDAY! If we dont let her go play she cries. they are together everyday at school - car pool - home everything..sleepovers everything. Yes they fight THEY fight. SD is just as mean and its a normal thing i would think. tattle tailing the whole nine yards. they are 7 yrs old. SD called her friend stupid yesterday. Its back and forth but they 90% of the time play fine. they are so close they are like sisters. Also , i feel this is a way for sd to get bm attention - most of the time when they talk on the phone its "so and so was so mean to me at school he/she hit/kicked me" and of bm is awe poor baby this and that. and one time dh and i (we were in the car when sd was on the phone) were just in awe with this. So i called the teacher ALL LIES sd gets along great with the other kids her behavior as well of the others is fine. except the one instance with the boy showing hi pee pee but he was removed from her class. so how should we handle this? DH wrote bm back and said DD is just as mean and always asks to play with _ and her sister but thats ok i will keep them apart. Now mind you i live in a duplex so she is RIGHT there. in order for the other girls to get in thier back yard they have to gor throu ours.. (its a wierd set up) and SD window is right there! I mean here is what I think - we will keep them apart but SD will go crazy wanting to play with them within 2 days... but then im stumped. should i have sd call her mom and ask her mom to play with them since it was bm who said no playing... I dont think we should ignore BM request because then SD will continue just complaining to bm. I feel in a way SD needs to learn a lesson - crying wolf type thing maybe... im truley stumped. DH said he will have a long talk with her and i dont think thats a good idea either - SD has a right to complain to her mom about whatever she wants - but to take it to the level that BM is truley believing sd is so miserable playing with ___ is a little much. I just KNOW tomorrow after school sd will ask as soon as i pick her AND her friend up she will ask to play... Its not this big of a deal but i know its just the beginning of playing both sides. This has never happened before where BM feels enough about it to ask DH to keep them seperated AND i cant blame her she is not here to see they are fine and just bicker back and forth like kids do. I want to play this NO I WANT TO PLAY THIS type deal. anywho - how should this be handled?