My dd is getting married next January. She and future sil are both grad students in California- the wedding is here on the East coast.
Future SIL's sister is getting married in NJ in late July and afterward my daughter and her fiance are planning on coming here to finalize all the wedding arrangements. They'll then return to California and don't plan on being back until a week or two before the wedding. (Future SIL has his qualifing exams in October)
Several of my friends and relatives want to give her a shower. The only logical time is the week in August- but I am concerned that having a shower a week after her SIL's wedding would be weird for the groom's side of the family.
The alternative would be to insist she come home at another time- either earlier in the summer or in the fall (when she would have to be by herself). Either way it obviously would ruin any surprise element.
What do you all think.