?'s about friends of the opposite sex
Ok, so 'm just looking for some honest opinions here. I know this isn't step family related at all but I trust your judgement so here it goes.....
J has made a friend with a woman who owns a local shop. They were both raised Jewish and are now converted christians so they have alot in common culturally. They are close in age and this woman seems to be a nice, christian lady.
Heres the rub. He has been stopping in at her thrift shop two to three times a week. He mowed her grass for her a couple days ago even. Now don not get me wrong, I don't think J is interestd in this woman sexually. She is nice but not good looking in the least. It's not a jealousy thing. The thing is she is going through a divorce.
I have told J he is playing with fire being a handy man to a woman in the middle of a divorce. Even the most christian, good hearted person can get wrapped up in the emotions and get "clingy". I have told him I don't like him putting himself in this position.
He just got angry at me and told me I was being ridiculous. He accused me of not trusting him. When I tried to explain that it isn't really a trust issue so much as I just don't feel it's appropriate he just made some ridiculous comment that he is just going to stop talking to anyone but me and save himself the trouble.
I am just uneasy with my husband being another womans emotional outlet/handy man. I don't care how ugly she is. I don't care how religious she is, I don't care if it is or is not sexual. I just feel like her divorce details/finanancial woes are not his concern and he is setting himself up for an embarrassing situation. Not to mention how pissed I'd be considering I warned him.
Am I wrong here. How would you ladies feel if your man started hanging out with another woman all the sudden. Say you KNEW he had no feelings for her but you questioned her motives. Would you feel this way too or am I really being stupid? Wouldn't it stand to reason that if it really is nothing then it shouldn't be a problem for him to cut the visits down?