Choosing your kids? or your partner?
Hi, I just had the best relationship of my life come to a close because my partner's teenaged daughter became difficult because of my presence in their lives. To the point that she said his behavior changed because of me and she began having a serious arttitude problem, so much so he felt it was too disruptive to his relationship with his daughter to continue seeing me no matter how much he loved me, how happy we were, and how good i tried to be to his daughter.
I have tried to suggest a balance if he loves me we can find a balance and all sit down and talk...no go. i asked then to be friends because our connection was so close and wonderful i am missing his friendship. he said we could remain friends but says baby steps? its been three days since i have heard from him. and these three days have been so so hard on me. how can he stay away so easily? i am very upset i can go from having a soul mate..to absolutely nothing now and it was so black and white of an issue for him. he felt he had to choose to stop the disruption it was causing his daughter because she will always come first. at what stage is this being a good parent or just letting your 18yo teen ruin your own chance of happiness? im at a loss how to feel about this. Any contribution would be appreciated.