Nutty BM's...not all but most.
So we have ths friend, actually, he is friends with J and with me by defualt. J has known him for fifteen years. Good guy. He has a child with a friend of BM's so we have all been forced to be around each other from time to time. For the daughters B-day parties and such since the twins are friends with her.
These two were never married. They lived together for about six years and then split. The guy stayed very involved with his daughter and even the womans child from a previous relationship. This child had an uninvolved father and grew up calling our friend dad. Our friend treated him as a son and always took him along when he visited with his daughter. He is like I said, a really good guy.
It's been three years since they seperated. The woman has had many boyfriends since while our friend just casually dated....untill recently. He is getting really seriously involved with this beautiful german girl. She is a doll. A total sweetheart.
Ironically, after three years of more or less laid back co-parenting, the ex girlfriend and mother of his child has decided he's a horrible father. Go figure. There was never no issue as long as the guy was uninvolved. Now this woman has the NERVE to demand paternity testing! Our friend is just stunned. For one thing his daughter looks SOOOO much like him it's totally ridiculous that she would even HINT that the child wasn't his!
Why is it as soon as the man gets involved seriously with another woman these women go off the deep end? It's like as long as he was at her beck and call everything was great. He was great dad and they were "such good friends". Now he's neglectful and doesn't spend enough time with the child...etc etc. Nothing has changed except he has a new girlfriend. The chick is pissed because now he has no interest in spending time with HER. The guy see's his daughter as much as he ever has.
Our BM did the same damn thing. Everything was cool untill J moved on. Then she started acting all psychotic and eventually went totally down the drain after we got married and had a baby. Both of these women moved on with other men while still seeing the father of their children. Why then does it stick in their crawl so when the guy gets serious with another woman? DO they seriously think just because they have kids with a guy that they can have their cake and eat it too? Do these woman have ANY identity outside of the man they had children with? Considering the fact that BM still introduces herself as "the bearer of J's children" (no joke) I'm guessing the answer is no. Especially since she has ZERO involvment with said children.
Any thoughts are similar stories? We feel really bad for our friend. He's fixing to have to go through all kinds of legal BS just to be able to continue seeing his daughter.