Does the 'Mother' in 'StepMother' mean anything?
... and if so, what?
... and if not, why?
What exactly is this role? Who defines it? The child, the SM, the birth parents? Who is responsible for cultivating this relationship, if anyone. Should this relationship be cultivated or should it progress without any intervention from other adults?
Are there certain responsibilities that a SM should never take on unless the other parent is AWOL; such as buying a first bra, talking about sex, talking to teachers or other "outsiders" about the child?
How does it feel, as a parent or a Sparent, to know that the person who is responsible for the child (eating and not choking, bathing and not slipping, swimming and not drowning, driving and not crashing, etc...) is not able to make medical decisions and is expected to do those things as a responsibility of being married to someone with children rather than as a co-parent?