Ex says I'm negligent
I actually was naive enough to believe that this fight was over. Court is over, we have a final order in place. We are going on with our lives...
I get an email that says DD told BD (BD wasnt home so basically DD told SM) two things that I have done and apparently BD does not agree with me so now I am negligent and he is calling child protective services on me (well not BD but SM even though the email cam from BD's account)
It's this long email about how dd could be killed by riding in the front seat of my car (BD forgets that dd rides in the front seat of his pick up truck).
What is so frustrating is I don't always let her ride in the front. Most days, she is in the back. My air bags turn off if the passenger weighs less than 100 lbs. Well lesson learned, dd won't sit in front seat ever again. Because he is right but there are ways of talking to someone about things that you don't agree with.
I don't need everyone posting how negligent I am because in my life I have let 10 yr old dd sit in front seat to the store or over to the school. I would never do it on a freeway -- It would make me uncomfortable. But the point of my post is that BD says he is contacting cps on me.
I've cried all morning. Not because I'm scared or anything. My attorney says 'bring it'
But the fact that I will never ever ever do enough in their eyes as dd's mom. They will never see me as 'fit'. They called me negligent. Omg I've never been called that in my life.
I'm sure another case will be opened and they will again file for custody. I wonder when I am going to just be able to live my life instead of worrying how they perceive things. Ya know? Worrying how will BD react to this and 'can I do this without consequences from BD?'
I will never be free from their criticism. When will they ever notice that Dd is an A honor roll student. She has been nominated for many awards for behavior and courage. Dd didn't just 'get lucky' she is in a nurturing, loving environment and has a great support system ....... That is apparently negligent.
When will they notice how well mannered she is or how respectful she is to adults and friends? Those things she wasn't born with.
She was taught those things. I don't want credit, I just want the finger to stop being pointed at BAD things.
I don't drink. I don't do drugs. I have never been arrested. I haven't had a speeding ticket in about 8 years. I think I'm a good person. I believe I am a good person. I'm a loving mother. I do make mistakes, I'm by no means perfect. Hell I forgot to send $5 on Wednesday to DD's school for her party so I had to turn around and take it up there yesterday.. I will never claim to have all my crap together -- I have three calendars so I don't forget important dates.... But one thing is certain, I love my children and I would lay my life down for them .... When will
I just get to be DD's mom instead of having to watch my back from BD.
He is out to get me and I have no doubt one day he will figure out a way to take me down.