My dd11 has been getting a little mouthy lately. She has been talking back and arguing when she is told to do something. It seems like I am constantly giving her warnings about this behavior. Yesterday I had it. Twice afterschool we had issues with this arguing about things she was told to do.
So, I told her enough is enough. I gave her a choice. She had plans for her two best friends to come home from school with her today and she also had a school event last night. I told her that for her attitude she was losing one and told her to pick! The school event had nothing to do with grades so she could miss it. The tears started coming and the begging began. Just told her she had 10 min to choose because in 10 min we had to leave for her school event. She kept saying she couldn't miss the school event but she wanted her friends to come over today.
I think that she was embarassed because she would have to tell her teachers that she was in trouble for her attitude at home if she did not show up for the school event.
After trying to say she would not talk for a year if I just let her do these things she finally decided to go to the school event and not have her friends over today. I told her this morning she was to tell her friends at school they could not come over and that if they showed up she would be in more trouble. I did not want her trying to have them get dropped off anyways and then it would be on me to call parents or drive them home. Also, this means that she would have to tell her friends why she was in trouble. I also called both parents today to tell them sorry about the change in plans. They thought it was a great punishment for the attutide issue and said they have been having the same issues.
This morning she was kind and pleasant. Just hoping that his punishment serves as a reminder of how she needs to behave.