Well it's just getting better and better. FDH got a letter last month about SD13 not attending school enough with unexplained absences. So he rang the teacher and explained it's not in his control when SD is with BM but it's always been a worry. Also explained what he tried to do about it previously. Teacher promised FDH to follow up with BM.
So far this school has been really good, they don't avoid FDH like primary school principal used to do and they keep him in the loop. And so they should! Anyway, today there's another letter from the school again. SD13's attendance has now fallen under 75%.
SD13 does suffer from migraines, and from experience we know that when the pressure is on she suffers them more often. And ulcers in her mouth too actually.
Anyway, with the recent developments (the traditional time of year for BM to cranck it up and SD13 now staying with BM more again) we know that it's a pressure cooker again overthere. And so SD13 suffers. So I imagine that she does get the actual migraine which puts her in bed for a day, but not for almost 2 weeks! This is the problem, first the stress gives her a migraine, then she has to stay home, which actually gives her more stress because she doesn't get the break from the chaos, and then when she's worn out BM tells her to take it easy, rents a couple of DVD's and gets SD13 to stay home a bit longer - a vicious circle.
I'll be surprised if they show up tomorrow, we've been at this point before many times and we know (sort of) what to expect. If they come they'll fall asleep on the couch after dinner while their favorite soap is on, they are just so worn out.