taking Pseudo's advice
Last year we wanted to take the kids to a footie game. They told BM and came back to us all upset because BM got angry when they told her. She had plans to take them herself!! The kids felt bad and so we let it slide, leaving it up to BM to take them.
(I know that BM can still take them, even if we do, of course. And also they were 11 and 13, if she was so hell bent on taking them herself, then why were they still waiting??)
Anyway, BM didn't take them, so the kids still haven't been. It's halfway through this years' season now and we're going to take them in two weeks. But we'll do what Pseudo advised us. It's going to be a surprise and we'll tell them once we're in the car. This way they don't have to feel stressed, BM does not get time to spoil it, she'll hear about it afterwards.
We're looking forward to it! And thanks again for the tip Pseudo :-)