As many of my friends on this board know, I have a lot of problems with my wife's daughter, who is now an adult. Things have gotten better, but I can't say I'll ever relax or trust her.
She emailed me tonight to ask for my sibling's email (it's business related).
I gave it to her but immediately felt pretty bad about it-- I don't like her being involved with my bio-family and I've been successful keeping her from having involvement with my family or life outside of relationship with her mother and sibling (which I cannot control).
I'm thinking of writing my brother to tell him to ignore her emails, but I don't want to come off as being too controlling.
But I dread her having this contact, particularly if it leads to her getting more involved. I see my bio-family as a sanctuary free from her.