What would you do??
This weekend is the 1st weekend of the month but BD cancelled for a dumb reason not even worth going in to. Dd was sick earlier in the week but has been fine for days and would have been fine over the weekend. BD thought it would be best for Dd to stay at home since she had been sick. Whatever makes no difference to me.
We decided to go to the movies. We got there early so we decided to go in to the mall to eat lunch. While eating, dd says there is my dad!!! Can I go see him? Of course I didn't mind, just curious how that would turn out.... So she goes over and says hi, I didn't watch her or anything to give them privacy and respect. She didn't have to travel that far, just a few tables. But she came back saying they were rude and weird. Sm apparently didn't speak to her and got up and left and Bd told her it wasn't a good time. So sent her on her way. Bd has cancelled every weekend in over a month and dd is missing him like crazy.
Well it ended up ruining her day and she has been moody and pouty and saying 'I just want to go to my dad's!!' it's not my fault that he has cancelled and not my fault that he was a jerk today. And if I would have said no you can't go say hello to your father that would have made her angry too. Either way, she would have ended up hurt.
I came home after our movie to an email saying next time dont do that we were having a family day and it was disrespectful of you to send dd over to us and make us feel uncomfortable. Also saying, If dd is sick sh shouldn't be at the mall... Although I had told BD during the week that dd was sick and was no longer sick... She could have gone to his house. I didn't respond but should I? Dh says no, don't respond. He is just trying to fuel you and set you up to explode. Ignore him. But what about dd? She's hurt and I think I should stand up for her.
What would you do?