I'll try to make this brief:
Been in relationship with widower for three yrs (wife had been deceased for three yrs when we met). It's been a fantastic relationship, but he has always been reluctant to tell two adult daughters that it was a serious relationship because of their initial reaction when he first told them about me. I always encouraged him to be more open about the relationship, but he said he'd handle it his way and when the timing was right. My relationship with the two daughters has not been great over the years, but I honestly believe he could have done more to bring the two "sides" together. We've talked about marriage, and last year we started looking for a house (his idea, not mine). Well... the house was recently purchased, but a conversation I had with one of the daughters last week revealed that he hasn't quite been honest with the daughters or with me about what he's been telling them. He led them to believe HE bought the house, without telling them that the house was bought for US. He also hasn't told them that we've been discussing marriage. She actually said that they don't consider the relationship to be significant because he has never told them that it was. Well, in the conversation, I cleared up some of those things... told her the house was for us to live in together.... that we're getting married.... that it's been a serious relationship for years. Granted... it wasn't my place to tell her, but it all came bubbling out because I was offended and hurt that he's been lying to them (and to me about what he tells them), as well as her implications that it couldn't be a serious relationship because their father never even mentions my name to them. Of course, there's been much drama since then. He's angry with me.... they're angry with him, and I'm just upset and hurtabout all of it. Although we have been pretty much inseperable for the past years, and it's been a relationship where we've been great companions and friends and enjoy traveling and doing lots of things, now I feel that I can't trust him. Meanwhile, the daughters are speaking to him; he's barely speaking to me, and I'm not sure where all of this is going. And we're scheduled to move into this house in a few weeks. So... where do I go from here? I'm glad it's all out in the open, but it's all a difficult situation. He has apologized in the last day or so... says he knows all of this is his fault and he will make it right. I'm not sure he can. Help!