Future parenting discussions.
I'm certain some of you have been through this and will have valuable advice to get my thoughts on straight.
DH and I are starting to try to conceive next cycle. I know none of you know me IRL, but shhhh, it's a secret IRL.
As you're all aware, I thrive on planning - LOL - so we've had plenty of discussions about parenting philosophies and so on.
As you're also aware, DH's ex and I have extremely opposite parenting ideals for my 10yo SS.
So sometimes things come up and DH says "When SS was a baby..." and I want to shake him!
I don't care that SS's BM thought breastfeeding was creepy! I am looking forward to it, cracked nipples and all.
I realize that BM ditched SS on whoever would watch him so she could do her own thing, but our baby will not be pawned off constantly so I can sleep in or go to the bar. I don't sleep in or go to the bar NOW, so why on earth would I start once we had a baby?!
What the h3ll is going on in your brain, DH? You know that I am a totally different person than BM, and we have a totally different relationship than you had with BM, and I have a totally different strategy with SS than she does - so why aren't you connecting this to that I will be a totally different type of mommy than she was?
I try to give him the benefit of the doubt that he is simply trying to share his past experience with me, but he's a foolish insensitive man, so he does it poorly.
I talked to him, calmly, about how BM and I are so totally different that I'd prefer he didn't base how we'll raise our baby off how she raised SS, and that I don't exactly relish hearing about how she did everything. He's certainly slowed it down, but still sometimes throws out "gems" like I mentioned.
So, now what?