Will it ever end?
This isn't a step-family related problem, its an ex-husband problem. I'm sure a lot of you can relate so I thought I could vent here.
Ex is EXTREMELY mad that I get child support for our two kids. He fought me hard to not have to pay me what's rightfully mine. I fought back and had to declare bankruptcy due to the legal bills I amassed. It wasn't pretty. That was almost 3 years ago.
Fast forward to today and he STILL has not gotten over that he pays me support. He hates it and every chance he gets he throws in a dig about how much money I have and how little he has.
Let me also add that he is still single and has asked me on more than one occassion to get back together with him. I remarried about 2 years ago and never looked back. I would NEVER go back with him or want to - he's bipolar and just a very negative person with a lot of nasty baggage that he lugs around on a daily basis.
We had a tiff last night about spring break. He's mad b/c my parents picked the kids up from his house last night after he's had them since Friday. My parents live close to him (I live an hour and a half away from all of them) and asked if they could spend some time with the kids too (they rarely get to see them b/c they go to ex's 3 out of the 4 weekends a month). I said sure to my parents and thought that it was a great idea. Ex was livid that I'm taking time away from HIM and he should get to keep the kids for the whole break if I didn't want them. And that's NOT the case. I do want them but I work all day and my parents are at home. Plus, they never get to see their grandparents that they love to death and vice versa. Ex tried to tell me that he has the right of first refusal according to our agreement. I vaguely recall talking with him about that when we were in mediation but somehow it never made it into the agreement. What did make it in however was a very nice sentence stating that we are to both foster relationships with the grandparents!
He starts in on me that he has no money to take the kids to see his parents (they live far away) b/c I take it all! OH HE%# NO! I just hung up on him when he started on that.
Then today I get a text from him about one of our cats (he got them all in the divorce b/c he refused to give them to me when I asked for them and then when he changed his mind, I was already living at a place that I couldn't have pets). So, he got "stuck" with them and to this day he's pissed about that. He has to pay for their medical expenses and that's what the text was about. Supposedly one of the cats is really sick and needed surgery and now he may have to put him to sleep b/c he can't afford it. I was like, well, I'm sorry that he's so sick, I wish I could help (I really don't have the money or else I might *think* about helping him) but I can't. I have my own bills. I also said that if I still had credit that I would've helped but the fact that I had to file bankruptcy wiped that option out. I also asked him why he didn't ask the vet if he could make payments. No answer to that one.
I just think it's totally ridiculous for him to call me every name in the book last night and then text me today asking me for money for a cat that I wanted, he wouldn't let me have and now the cat is sick and he wants my help! UGH! I am just at my wit's end with him. I KNOW he got a tax return. Where did all that money go? He lives by himself and makes over 70K a year. I get a part of that but come on - where does all your money go dude? You can't possibly have that many expenses!
I don't think this nonsense will ever end!
Thanks for listening...