Need Advice ASAP!
BM has been taking 6 weekend visitations now for the past 6 months. Just not showing up, sending bogus reasons, and scheduling extracurricular activites on DH's weekends. Court order dictates DH gets 1st, 3rd and 5th weekends each month, with DH and BM drving 1.5 hours each way. (We live in VA and SD lives in NC). So DH and lawyer filed contempt charges. Court date will be in mid June.
QUESTION IS: DH is contemplating getting the police involved this weekend. BM has said she is not driving - so DH is thinking of driving the 3.5 hours to NC - going to the police station with the court order - and having them handle BM getting SD to DH for his visitation. The documentation from the police would just be added to the other documentation going to court for the contempt hearing. I don't think SD should be traumatized due to her mother's actions - but what other recourse does DH have?
Background Info: Last year BM filed false allegations of abuse against myself and DH to change visitation, driving arrangements and child support. She used a trauma counselor for SD and actually after no instances of abuse were found - BM told counselor in anger she filed the case because she did not want to drive. This was used in court last September 2009. AND DH was given more time with SD as a result (summer and visits through the year) plus BM has to sign and agreement to stop alienating DH and his family out of SD's life. This was also written in the court order to stop futher alienation, stop allowing 3rd parties to alienate, allow daily calls with child and to provide information on doctor, school, etc.
Since court in September 2009 - BM has taken 6 visitations beginning in Oct. (In Oct she claimed SD was too ill to travel got a doctor's note - then turned around and posted pictures the same day with the child outdoors in a tank top at a party - which we have the pics and the doctor's note). Since Oct she has taken visitation in Jan, Feb, Mar and April. DH has only seen SD one time this month - and was supposed to have 1, 3 and 5 weekends. BM already told DH she is not driving anymore this month right after the 1st weekend of the month. So that is two visits gone/taken this month alone. She lets him talk to the child sometimes and has not provided him any information in regards to school, doctor, or dance/cheerleading.....(DH calls around begging the folks for the information - so he can stay in tune with his daughter's activities - and when he or family from VA show up to the activities - she acts very nasty, rude and has pulled the child to keep her from spending time with her father or other family members.)
It is just sad to see this situation evolve into this. Fathers who are attempting to do what is right, paying their support, attempting to spend as much time with the child, attending their events, etc... should not have to suffer the relationship with the child due to the BM's feelings/attitude/wrong doings. It is just not right!