those damn pants!!! ~again~
Yes, it just won't go away.... will it? 'Those damn pants!' that she won't let go of... but this has gone too far!
DH was served with court papers yesterday. BM had her mom go to his work and serve him. Yes, she filed for sole legal and physical custody. She recommends he get less visitation than he has given her for the last two years. Of course, if she is given custody, she thinks the child support to her should go up. and she asked for an order so DH has to return her pants to her. She also said the court should order him to allow SD to bring presents into our home and that DH cannot have a say in it. [BM is angry that DH did not give SD the half of cake that grandma dropped off at his work and maybe she thinks he should have had to let SD bring the mouse she got her, home to take care of] It was ridiculous to say the least...
As entertaining as this may be... to actually have her bring an action that brings up those damn pants... it is stressful that DH will have to lose time from work and go to court. Our attorney charges $300 an hour... BM has already been ordered to pay her $1000 for prior BS where BM dragged out the court dates to make DH lose time from work. I'm dying to hear what the Judge has to say when he hears her rant about those pants, about all the petty things she mentioned... and how she will explain owing so much in arrears, or even explain how/why she would move away so soon after the first trial for a guy she just met and leave her kids behind... and explain why she's waited 2 years to seek custody when she is complaining about things that happened 2 years ago.
lol, she said that we tell SD that BM is a liar. We have never told her that. SD's therapist told SD that certain things are 'not true', like when SD said BM told her she is going to live with her... and it was not true. BM has told SD that she is going to marry BF. Two 'wedding dates' have already passed with no wedding. BM posted a blog last September announcing she's marrying BF next month. She is still married to H1. SD told us BM isn't getting married in May after all because they don't have any money. There are countless lies BM has told SD and I guess SD has figured her out. I'm sure it's easier for her to convince herself that DH and I tell SD that BM is a liar. BM also says that I told SD that BM abandoned her. I may post that here (maybe she's lurking???) and I've written blogs about that, but I've never had a conversation with SD where the word abandoned was used. Again, in her mind I guess she tells herself that we are putting these thoughts into SD's head. It's much easier than to accept the fact that SD feels abandoned without my grand influence.
Well, it will be a few weeks until they go to Mediation and they don't go to court until June 1. Hmmm, coincidentally it's the first day of summer and BM is supposed to take SD for summer. It's a further coincidence that BM was just served by DCSS to appear on June 8 so they can order her to pay something on her arrears. She currently owes nearly $3,500.00 in back support. But, I'm sure THAT isn't a motivation to seek custody. and I'm sure it has nothing to do with her not wanting to take SD for summer. Now that she's working, she left SD at grandmas during spring break... probably because she didn't want to get or pay for child care while she works. If she quits her job, DCSS will revoke her license because she owes so much in arrears and the only way to keep her license is to work. However, if she gets custody... she can quit her job (I'm sure she'll say she needs to stay home & take care of SD) Then she can collect child support from DH which will make up for not working.
We'll see what happens...