On the thread about the mom who left her children someone posted a link to an article about stepmoms.
Did you all read this? What do you think about it?
I guess I found part of it to be true. Me and my sd's do bond over girly things....painting our nails at home together..going to get haircuts together...I even took one of my sd's to get highlights before. And I do see how they turn out as a direct reflection on me and my dh since we are the ones primarily raising them.
The part I did not like was when it said something about how stepmoms try to make their stepdaughters mini versions of them. I do not try to make my sd's like me. But I am their "mom" so they do try to model themselves after me. They do things I do and like things I like. But they also have some of their own characteristics as well. I do not think it is different than if they lived with bm. Then they would do things she did.