I have found out that I am pregnant. I now need to decide what to do. The father of my child already has a 9 year old son who lives with him Monday thru Friday. The father struggles with money and I have to pay for everything when we go anywhere. I do not want my child to grow up in a broken home, however I do not want to raise another woman's child, financially or otherwise. I already know that I resent the fact that I did not give a man his first child and I do not see my view changing. I do love my boyfriend however had already decided that we did not have a future due to my feelings about his child and ex. I guess he will have to be in my future now, in one form or another. As for the child, he is a good kid, however he is not mine and I believe I will always resent that. I do not want the responsibility of raising a child that is not mine. I feel selfish for having these feelings but I can not seem to change it despite trying. As for the ex, I found out nine months into the relationship that they were talking 10 times a day. I had to tell my boyfriend that it was ridiculous and that they needed to set boundaries. I resent that he had to be told, which reminds me, he has to be told common sense things about raising a child: Such as he needs to stop running around town on school nights and making his child do his homework and study (was failing, now on honor role). Point is he has to be told everything. I did not plan this and don't know what to do. Sometimes I think I would be happier to raise the children on my own and the father can come see them whenever he wanted to, but then is that the best decision for my children. I want his child and mine to be happy. I fear that my resentment will hurt everyone involved if I stay with him. I have told my boyfriend my feelings when he wanted to discuss our future together, but hopes that I will change my mind and marry him. If I could change my feelings I would but it bothers me to the core. I have tried to see the positive side of having a step-child and dealing with an ex, but i can't see it. Any advice would be appreciated.