At what age do you think a child should have no choice on what is for dinner? Or decide that he/she don't like what is on plate and have something different?
My BF daughter is 4 now and comes to our house EOWE. I am in close contact w/ BM and talk to her regularly. I asked her what kind of food SD like to eat for meals. I took a list and planed accordingly because it is hard to get her to eat much other than fish stick and chicken nuggets.
One evening before dinner was ready to come out of the oven I asked SD if she liked potpies - I did this onpurpose because she will never eat anything I make. She said she did with a big smile and I told her that was what was for dinner, but we were going to have a homemade one that we would all share, she was delighted. As soon as I got it out of the oven she made a face of dissaproval and refused to eat it. She had not even tried it and already said she didn't like it. In the end she got something different to eat.
This just didn't happen on one occusion, it happenes at least once every weekend. I don't cook out of the box, I make most meals homemade, afterall I am a homemaker. Just last weekend when she asked what was for dinner she already decided she didn't like it with out even seeing it first and once again refused to eat it. She ended up getting chicken nuggets.
I understand that the unknown is feared and if something looks weird than it may be hard to eat. I don't make over the top foods, just homemade general foods like casseroles and roasts and chicken ect... But DS2 can't chew and I puree all of his foods, he eats almost everything I give him. Last weekend I was sooo tempted to puree SD's food and feed it to her the way I feed DS. But I just kept my mouth shut.
When I was a child my mother could not afford for everyone to have something different for dinner and what was for dinner was for dinner. If you didn't like it you didnt eat. NO PPJ, no cereal, just dinner. Today I will eat just about anything and love to try new foods. My BF on the other hand who was raised the same as he is raising SD is a very picky eater and it is hard to get him to try new things. I intend to use the same tactic "whats for dinners for dinner" with my son.
A part of me feels I am being too hard, a part of me feels like giving in and having pizza and chicken nuggets and fish sticks all weekend so I don't have to deal with it. A part of me is afraid the this will not stop unless we stop it. If she has the ability to decide at every meal that she wants something different, why eat what is for dinner, even if I know she likes it? I am also worried about the long run. I don't want my son to pick up on this and do the same thing. Am I wrong? Please, let me see your point of view.