Dealing with a Stepfather (this will be long)
I can't stand him. My mom has been married to him for 10 years, and since the beginning he has always treated me differently. My brother is like a son to him, and I'm just a spoiled brat that does not do anything.
I'm 21, have been an honor role student since 4th grade, dean's list, animal shelter volunteer, and do practically everything asked of me. I take care of all our animals (close to 40 in all), have a job, and am a full time college student.
He is anal, but only with other people. He requires we wash our hands before touching "his" things, yet comes in from working on a car and rubs his hand all over my stuff. He hides food so that no one else can get it, and locks his garage so not one can touch his things.
We have no relationship, and I really don't want to. I have never spoken to him except to ask a question. He calls me names behind back, but within earshot. He blames me for every problem. His family calls me a spoiled brat who has not lifted a finger my entire life. All his brothers have been in jail at least one time, 2 of his brother dropped out of high school and live in run down trailers that they can't pay rent on, and his one brother is homeless. I'm the only thing my mom and him fight about, and they have even been to therapy to discuss how he treats me. I'm not the type of person to speak up for myself, I'll just take it. because of this, I have very low self esteem and social anxiety.
Animals are my outlet. I have a connection to them and always have. I believe that animals can sense when a person is bad, and I take their options seriously. Our cats bolt in the other direction when he walks into a room. Our dogs only listen to him because they are afraid of him (he yells a lot). When he first moved in, he brought a dog with him. He kept the dog in a kennel his whole life, and when he was bad, my stepfather would drag him by the collar and throw him places. Since then, I do not trust or respect him.
I am not financially able to move out right now, so I need a way to deal with him. I have considered therapy, but do not know how to bring this up to my mom.