Divorcing husband and stepkids at last
Hi. I havent posted here is some time.I have two stepkids, one 32 with two kids, 10 1/2 and 6 and one who is 36. I also have a bio son, 8 1/2 who survived cancer. I began posting here two years ago because of my stepkids lack of caring regarding my son during his serious illness. As things went on I described how awful a family my husbands children and relatives are in my opinion.
My husband and I are now divorcing. Not specifically because of his adult kids, there have been other huge problems. BUt, his lack of desire in making life easier for me and my son with his adult kids has been an ongoing problem and to me reflects his affection or lack thereof towards me and our little boy.
For my son's sake, I hope that his adult half sibs will not fire him as family. I believe his half brother, the one with the young boys, my son's nephews already have. The adult daughter we'll see. She told me last fall around the holidays that she would NOT like to meet or be around my relatives because it would make her too uncomfortable and it would make her feel disloyal to her mother. Their rejection of me, my son, my family and all things me has been such a bitter pill. They are the crappiest excuses for family members around.
I will and do not miss being related to them. The divorce isn't final so officially we are related but my detachement, especially to the son has been rapid. I do hope that they won't fire my DS8 as well since he loves them but who knows. They probably see this as their opportunity to get their Dad's attention back where they think it belongs, on them.
For all you stepkids reading this, understand how painful this is, how painful you can make life be for everyone involved. How the holding on to the past, the resentment for things the new spouse and half siblings had nothing to do with is misplaced, destructive and immature. Unless the new spouse had something to do with the break up of your old family cut everyone some slack and pray for the heart to be loving. It is only in Grimm's Fairy Tales where the Wicked Stepmother is out to get the original kids. Not real life. In real life it's usually the Evil Stepkids out to get the Stepmom