No winning w / stepgrand kid but a winner
I posted on another thread that I was keeping my SGS (step grandson) 9 this past weekend. I picked this boy up from his home almost 1 1/2 away, 2 1/2 hours with traffic. Each way.
The weekend went all right, SGS9 was clearly disappointed that the weekend basically meant hanging around the house without trips to Disneyland or special restaurants which isn't how we really live. I did cook a lot unlike his mom, did one big take out $$$ feast, waffles, plenty of ice cream, soups, chips and dip. He practially inhaled a couple of plates of baked refrigerated dough cookies. But he stayed on his best behavior which means His best at the C+/B- level. DS7 was just glad he was around at first.
However, as things went on there were accusations of lying, outright disobedience, and finally an altercation with one of DS7's friends ending with a well deserved black eye for SGS9. Also, he was left home from church because of backtalk, saying he didn't want to go and really, who needs this kind of problem? We went to church with some neighbors including kids and SGS9 wanted to go when he saw all of the kids but it was too late. How would I know he wouldn't act the fool there too?
DH took him home Sunday while DS and I went on with our plans, juice bar with friends, playdate and a fun science project SGS9 wanted to do with DS7. SD36 called, asked how it went and was clearly updated on everything I supposedly did wrong per SGS9. Although she graciously complemented me on taking him and doing all that I did do for him.
I took the kid for the weekend, gave him treats, took him to see a movie I had to scramble to see, Alice In Wonderland 3D IMAX(with the opening $5/head premium), let him play and relax in a way he doesn't at home, and I'm still the bad guy. Well, after my religious service and a nice reality check from DH I know that I am the winner, I rose above my SS30, GF/babymama, and SGS9's problems/expectations, and did what I thought was right and fair. SGS9 knows that DS7 and I are going skiing this week, on the road trip back to his home he begged DH to go after saying how rotten I was, unfair, etc etc. Begged to go with ME. DH said, hey that's between you and LAMOM. Fuggetaboutit. Life is too short and skiing is too expensive. Not to mention high blood pressure from crazy, ungrateful skids and grandskids!
We are planning on a couple of other trips involving families, kids where there would be room for SGS9. But, when will his parents get it? I don't blame him anymore, he is a product of his upbringing. But the parents, still think there should be a free ride for them and theirs. SS is 30, GF.babymama is 31/32. I knew better by then, didn't you?