My 21 yr old stepdaughter has, quite frankly, been the bain of my existence for years now. And I certainly wouldn't say such a thing without just cause. I could literally write a book detailing all of her poor choices, trouble she's gotten into and headaches she's caused my wife and I and our marriage. So there's certainly not enough room here to give a full account of the situation and my frustration. And I'm sure I'm certainly at fault to some degree for her behavior by not perhaps creating the right structure, expectations, consequences, etc. While recognizing that and hoping for good feedback/advice here or just camaraderie, I also know that she is ultimately responsible for her own behavior. Just a quick rundown of her "portfolio"....dropped out of high school as a senior; has never had a job and won't get out and really search/try for one; has delusions of grandeur in that she only seems to consider exotic/unrealistic careers as opposed to just a starter job somewhere and working her way up; numerous loser boyfriends; parties/drinks/smokes; smokes at times in her room when the rule is only outside; stays up and goes out all hours of the night and sleeps much of the day; never helps out around the house, despite the fact that she has no job or any other responsibility at all!; a complete and utter mooch who has never contributed anything, but expects everything in return; master manipulator of her mother; seemingly has no conscience; total sloth/lazy; selfish; inconsiderate; setting horrible example for our younger eleven and seven year-old children for years now; car accidents; license revoked; stolen money from us; steals her mother's prescription medicine; can get her friends to take her all over God's creation to do whatever, but won't apply for a job; new tattoo or piercing every time I turn around; ungrateful for how hard I work to support her; has all kinds of gadgets, including a recent IPAD to waste all her time on (which I did not approve of or buy); watches tv or plays on said gadgets when she is home and awake; vandalized our basement walls with spray paint; her room is an embarrassment; no ambition; no drive; total apathy; spends money on junk as soon as she receives it from her real dad; credit already being destroyed; has no prospects and seemingly no future whatsoever at this rate; takes, takes, takes and doesn't seem to care how much of a financial and emotional burden she is; leaves a mess all over the kitchen when she cooks; spends no quality time with her younger siblings; cannot be relied upon as a babysitter; when you ask her to do something around the house, she acts insolent; always has excuses for not doing something.....and the list goes on and on and on. Sorry for the length of this. I guess it's just years of frustration and intense resentment that have built up. Needless to say, I'm at my wit's end and am extremely concerned about the situation and its effects on her future, my marriage and my younger children. Getting up early every single morning, busting my hump from sunup to sundown and then walking by her door knowing she's doing the exact opposite every single day makes my blood absolutely boil. I can't take it anymore.