10 year old responsibilities
After reading the post from Ceph and house rules... breakfast times and such came up and it is ironic because DH and I were just discussing this last night. I feel like our 10 year old should be doing a lot more than what he does do. I think back to when I was that age and it is a world of difference. I was on the verge of babysitting my siblings every afternoon after school at that age and SS doesnt even get up and get himself dressed in the morning. This came about because he has a big field trip coming up with school that will be an overnight deal and I told DH that we need to work on a few things with him before hand to make sure he is ready to not have mommy or daddy there to do everything for him. It actually kind of drives me a little nuts... skids wont even go and look for their own underwear and socks. Instead of going into the laundry room and looking for some they sit on the couch and say "I dont have any..." Okay, well then get off your butt and go and find some. This is the same thing with eating breakfast getting dressed... well just about everything that involves being somewhat independent. I know each kid is different and I try not to compare but my 5 year old can get up in the morning get herself a poptart and get herself completely dressed (albeit usually in some unusual concoction of clothes that she insists looks beautiful but at least she is doing it.)
Anyways, I fought really hard to get DH to be less over protective and allow the kids some independence because as I told him.. if they never get a chance to do things on their own and make their own mistakes they will never learn to be able to handle themselves as adults... so he has let up and finally I can say to ss 10 go ride your bike but be back at this time... and let him just go... which is nice for him he gets that independence that I think boys need... Now I just need him to have more responsibility to learn to do things on his own...
So, my question would be what is normal for a 10 year old to be able to do... mostly with regards to household responsibilities and personal responsibilities????