Venting - Annoyed with Hubby!
I'm just so annoyed with Hubby today -- You'all remember Thurman? Whose SD can do no right, and whose wife defends her daughter and gets annoyed with Thurman? Well, if my husband could use more than two fingers to type, I'd swear he could be Thurman...
This morning, my DS18 was in the shower when his alarm clock went off. Oops... It was early, and it was annoying, but instead of simply turning off the offending alarm clock, Hubby yelled at DS in a very nasty tone of voice. DS was in the shower, and probably couldn't even hear the alarm clock -- but he sure heard Hubby yelling at him and he sure heard the tone of voice. So now Hubby is annoyed. DS is annoyed (and feeling unfairly picked on). And I am annoyed and stuck in the middle all over again! And both want me to take their side against the other!
Things have gotten to the point where DS18 and Hubby don't talk and barely tolerate each other. They each only see the other's flaws and overlook the good qualities. Whenever DS does something to annoy him, Hubby usually just files it away in his stack of resentments (it's pretty big by now) until he's had too much and blows up over something trivial. Or, he reacts in a frustrated 'third strike' reaction when he never even mentioned the first two strikes! A typical situation would be DS18 leaving a dirty dish on the countertop. He knows better, and if I see it, I'll simply ask "Are you done with that?" and he'll immediately get up and put it in the DW. But Hubby will silently put the dish away himself and file a mental 'strike one' against DS for being lazy and selfish. Two dishes later and Hubby's furious and DS feels completely blindsided --
I tried to speak to Hubby about this morning's episode, and you know what he's mad about? DS18 didn't wash my car or do any yardwork this weekend like his little brother did. What can I say? It's true. DS18 is lazy and dislikes that type of activity, so he didn't do any -- which I freely admitted to Hubby. But then in DS18's defense, I added "But we didn't ask him to do it either --" which caused Hubby to snap that it's my fault for not asking him to do it, and that DS13 never waits to be asked to do stuff - he just volunteers. (Which is true. Odd. But true.)
I've tried talking to both of them calmly and rationally, but nothing changes much for long.
I'm just very annoyed and venting!
Thanks for listening...