DH has continued working long hours. I am the one watching SS most of the time when he is at our house.
It's been going fine, it's a little stressful at times, but we are all getting used to it.
Here's the deal, though. BM seems to have a complex about me watching SS. BM's mother dumps all this guilt on her about how SHE should be watching her child, blah blah...and BM says the same things, but then at the end of the day---she really DOES want the break, too. It's like she doesn't want him to be with ME but she really doesn't want to have him on my DH's time, either. She complains when I watch him but then if DH offers her extra time with him, she complains that it's DH's parenting time, not hers.
BM called me earlier in the week to talk about the plans for the week. (this is really where DH should be handling it, but he can barely keep his head on at work, let alone find time to talk on the phone.) No joke, he is pretty much working 12 hr days 6 days a week now. :(
So BM and I were going over the schedule for the week. The issue of tomorrow (Fri) came up. SS is off school tomorrow, and it's our weekend. So I said I just planned on having him with me all day. She asked me what I planned to do with him and I said that I had a couple quick errands to run b/c Friday is the only day this week I don't have to tutor; and I also had a hair appt. and I had just planned on bringing him with me, and he would get a haircut, too. She FLIPPED out and called DH ranting about how a)she doesn't want ME taking him to get his hair cut and b) that won't be any FUN for him and she wants him to have a fun day off school. UMMMM, the kid is starting THREE WEEKS of spring break, tomorrow is the first day off--we are going to the beach next week---he has PLENTY of fun ahead! And GEEZ--sometimes life is not all FUN AND GAMES. I had to run errands with my mom growing up and it didn't kill me! Sorry, but I am not going to completely center my schedule around what's "fun" for a kid---DD OR SS.
So BM then called her own mother who (I am surmising) gave her a huge guilt trip about how SHE should be responsible for her own child if DH can't. BM then calls back later and says that grandma wants to watch SS all day on Friday---she wants DH to drop him off in the morning, and she's going to take him to breakfast, bake cookies at home, maybe go to a movie, etc. She wants DH to pick him up from her house after work. Grandma NEVER does stuff like this with him AT ALL so DH and I agreed it would be a great day for SS, no problem.
Yesterday BM calls and says grandma has changed her mind and only wants him for a couple hours. And not any earlier than 9 AM. This means I am going to have to drop him off at grandma's and then she wants to "meet me" somewhere in the middle a couple hours later.
Honestly, this is becoming a bigger hassle than it's worth-I would honestly just rather have SS stay with me all day tomorrow. I have a few errands I really need to get done tomorrow before our trip, and then if I have to coordinate my hair appt, dropping off and picking up SS, PLUS getting my DD from school at 3-----it's just not worth the trouble.
Keep in mind, grandma lives 25 miles from our house--so we are not talking a quick jaunt up the street.
I suppose I could ask grandma to drop SS off here when she's done. I don't know if she'd do that or not.
It just seems like such a hassle and I'm inclined to say forget the whole thing! I don't mind having SS stay here at all and it is actually good bonding time for him and I. I rarely get any time alone with just him.