Query for Widowers
I am a 61 year old widower with two adult children, one is married and one is not. I have been engaged for a number of years(my wife passed away many years ago) but there are a few issues that have held me back from setting a date. I feel the need to be available for both of my children 24/7 and there have been times in the past putting them before my fiancÃ¯Â¿Â½e has caused some difficulties in our relationship. I can't seem to be able to shake this need " to be there for them" even if it means possibly losing my fiancÃ¯Â¿Â½e. I am reaching out to other widows or widowers who have had some similar issues who could possibly refer me to some reading materials that might help me. It is not my kids that are telling me they need me but me feeling that I have to be there for them no matter what.