'I'm so ugly'
Hello everybody, I posted the same question on the parenting forum because it's not step-kid related.
My SD10 has very low self esteem and says things like: "I'm ugly", "I'm fat" , "My feet are so big, they're ugly" etc etc.
We are trying to boost her self confidence and I'd like to know how you guys address these kind of remarks. What do you say? If I say "no, you're not" it's not going to fix it.
Background info: SD's mom is exactly the same, always saying those sorts of things and constantly fishing for confirmation.
I want to tell SD10 that it's not good to say something negative about yourself just to try and get others to say that it's not true. And then I want to offer her an alternative, but what????
What do you say?