We are done taking it for the team!
Lately Bio Mom has been calling more because thanks to tax returns she has a cell phone. She still only calls about once every two weeks but for her that's alot. She's been telling the girls that her and her boyfriend are going to buy a big house and when they do the girls are moving back with her.
This is the boyfriend who has beat her severly on more than one occasion. These are just the incidents we heard about. There have been other times we have not heard about I'm sure. He's alos the turd who came to our apartment and showed his tail with all the kids present. They are both unemployed so how they expect to AFFORD this grand estate is anyones guess.
J and I have a real problem with this because we KNOW it isn't going to happen. The girls are all excited thinking they may get to live with their mother again and talk about it constantly. Mom has also told the girls she is better...she is NOT. She also tells the girls that we are the ones who won't let her see them and that her boyfriend is a "good man".
Last nigh they kept telling us that they were going to move in with their mom when she got her new house. One of the girls even kept telling us that C_____ was a nice man and that her mother said he wasn't a "stranger". They also kept saying that "Mama isn't sick anymore". They were accusing us pretty much of being mean because we won't allow her to have that guy aorund them. It got really old very fast. We have been censoring the truth and being called liars for too long.
J finally told them the facts.
- Your mom is still very sick. She left the Doctor (rehab) with this man and he's still sick too.
- They are both on drugs.
- Niether of them have a job and they live in a very cruddy travel trailer not suitable for two little girls. They can not afford to rent no less buy any houses.
-C______ is not a nice man just because he bought you candy. He is a mean man who hurts your mama and that's why we don't want you around him. If your Mama wasn't sick she wouldn't be with him.
-We do not tell your mama she can't see you. We tell her she has to come alone and she doesn't want to leave C____ at home so she doesn't come.
-There is a very good possibility you will never live full time with your mama again.
We really hated to be so frank with them but there is only so much blame a person can take. The girls are old enough that they can start hearing some truth about their mother's situation. She always paints herself out to be a victim in their eyes while we end up looking like big bullies. She leaves out all the ugly details and expects us to take it for the team and look like buttholes by going along with her lies while she comes out smelling like a rose. Not anymore.
The girls no doubt will repeat everything we have said to them the next time she calls. She will be forced to answer the questions or call us liars in which case J will have to have a long talk with her.