Decision made, we are staying put
I think we've finally reached a final decision to stay here, even though this is NOT my dream home. It was actually dd#2's boyfriend's parents who convinced us, and we've never even met them! They were in a mid-size house that they had been in for years, and had a comfortable mortgage. Then, last year, they decided to sell and build their dream house with all the bells and whistles and twice the size of their old house. This is AFTER all the kids had left, but his income had increased and they could afford it if they put everything they had in it. Now his union is probably going to go on strike, and it will probably last 3 months. If it does, they are afraid they'll lose the house. They can't even make it one month without his salary.
So not only are we too tired to start over with a new place, we're comfortable and want to stay that way - even if our bedroom closet is too small for 2 people.