Thank you's and appreciation
The thread on step kids growing up moved toward a tangent I wanted to expand on. What should kids be grateful for from their parents? Dotz mentioned not saying thank you for soup put in front of them, but I disagree, in theory.
I teach my kids to say thank you for anything that is done for them. Dad got you a glass of milk? Say thank you. Brother told you he liked your picture? Say thank you. Mom drove you to your friend's? Say thank you. I completely acknowledge most of these things are general expectations of a parent, but I don't see the harm in teaching kids to appreciate any time someone goes out of their way for them. We talk often about the fact that many of the things they ask for/expect require a sacrifice of time/money/participation and that they should acknowledge that and appreciate the time/money/participation that is given. I fear that it's when they start to only expect and forget to ask they will become, for lack of a better word, spoiled brats. They know without doubt we support them (probably over-support them!) in what they want to do and always have, so I don't worry they are insecure in that way. I guess I fear they may be 'over secure', and take steps to remind them to appreciate all they have.
So am I asking or expecting too much of them?