I have posted here before venting my frustrations regarding the children's mother and her behavior with my husband. Fortunately, since then, he has cooled off and we are all back to our goodie old selves and our life with our children (and by this I am intending my 3 steps for the purpose of this post).
Today, when I was talking to one of the children's coaches, I received the uniform and handed it to their mother who was sitting at another field watching the others practice.
Later we received a call where she first complained to my husband and then directly to me that:
-It was completely inappropriate of me to be doing something that she as a mother should be doing.
-That I am not their mother and therefore, I should not be doing things like that.
-That she has spoken to several people who told her that I claim the boys to be my own.
-That she and my husband discussed it already and I am not to be doing things for the children.
Now, I don't get what picking up a uniform and handing it to someone has to do with mothering. I don't get what NOT being their mother has to do with picking up something in the first place (I thought I was just doing her a favor, go figure!). I have NEVER EVER claimed to be the children's biological mother, as a matter of fact I always claim the fortunate step-mother status when it comes to them. And as for her last point, we "run" our family as a family, not as them as a family and me as an external figure.
Granted, it seems that the closer I get to my due date (I am expecting), the higher the flames get from her... but really, does anyone have any advice on how to deal with an antagonizing former spouse who seems to find a problem with ANYTHING her ex-husband and his wife do? I thought their therapy was working, but in occasions like these I truly begin to lose hope. Any thoughts and advice are GREATLY appreciated. At this point, I am lost....