How much privacy should a child have? As I read the post on anger/jealousy I noticed that the topic of privacy came up. Some people were against reading letters that kids write to their OP, and some were for it. At times I read the diaries of my dd and my sd when they are out of the house. They are in those pre-teen years and I worry about them. Do I believe that my dh and I are raising them right, of course. And I do feel we have good communication with both girls, but I do feel that we are not hurting them by reading their diaries. If I ever found anything disturbing in them I would not tell them I read their diaries, I would instead lead them to the topic in conversation. I do not believe that makes me a bad parent. I know that both girls have had a little drama with their op and sometimes they talk about it, but other times they don't. I like to read their thoughts and make sure that they are okay. They both have e-mail and I know the passwords. Our computer is in our familyroom, so I can see what they are doing online at any time, but I do on occasion read their e-mails secretly. I like to make sure they are not sending or receiving any innapropriate e-mails. At times I have read their e-mails to their op. Why is it such a huge deal?