Why do Bio-parents spoil their kids?
I've lurked on here a long time, I've read books about step-parenting, other forums, and I still don't understand this basic issue. I'd say 80% or more of the postings here involve a bio-parent who is not able to set boundaries and keep them. As someone who has never had a bio-child, I just simply do not get this. Why would you let your child be disrespectful, lie, manipulate you? Why would you think that any one else in the world is going to tolerate a terribly negative attitude? Don't you want your child to mature into a healthy, happy person, find a great spouse and have a good marriage? Don't you want them to be able to work hard, hold a job, have friends, treat people well? I'm just beating my head against a wall, because I can't wrap my head around this seemingly simple problem that is so ubiquitous. Can someone on the other side of the issue please explain this to me?