Can't Accept My Stepson
I don't know what it is but I just can't stand having my SS12 around. He's not that bad of a kid and we don't see him that often but there are so many things that grind on my nerves about him. I'll list just afew of the things that are irking me:
-> He's always trying to grind on my nerves asking the same questions over and over or asking completely stupid questions that you would expect of a 4 year old.
->His relationship with his dad is terrible, it's like he's not even his dad sometimes, more like a babysitter that he calls dad. But I guess that's because they haven't seen each other more than a month out of the year for the past 11 years.
-> He never really wants to spend time with us (even his dad) because if he's staying with us and we're not doing anything "Fun" then he calls his mom and complains he wants to go home.
-> He never calls his dad unless he wants something or to make plans for when he comes to see us. And when his dad calls there no one answers the phone, even when we know there's someone home.
-> He shows me and my family no respect. My parents or I will do something for him or give him a gift and all we get is dirty looks and never a thank you. Even if DH and I buy him a gift and DH points out that I picked it out the thank you never comes to me, only dad.
-> He's a spoiled brat that thinks he can get away with anything when he's with us despite being punished or told off.
-> and his BM just adds to all the problems. She makes him the way he is. She's been manipulating and shaping him for 12 years and DH doesn't get the time to try and make him a better person. 3weeks out of the year just doesn't cut it. And when he doesn't call or answer the phone it doesn't help anything either.
Well I'll stop my list because I'm getting frazzled just thinking about it all.
These are some of the things that really rub me the wrong way about the kid.
I don't know what to do. I've been to other message boards but all I get is women who have wonderful relationships with their Stepkids and love them to death. I'd like to hear from some people who have the same problem as I do.
I'm getting to the point where I tell DH "It's either him or me". But then he'll just say "well it's only 3 weeks a year and it's only for 6 more years". I know that but the problem is I can't stand the kid now.
I've heard of women who have gotten their husbands to stop having their stepkids come stay with them (my mother in law is one of them). I was wondering if there is anyone else out there who has tried this, or did this.
I'm not saying that I'm going to tell my husband "I never want that kid in my house again", but I have thought about it.
Please don't give me critism, just advice. And hopefully there are some stories out there of other women who have gone through or are going through the same thing.
Thanks for listening. Sorry it was so long.