My fiance and I have had the same discussion over and over again and I've finally had it. We are on the brink of breaking up completely. His two daughters 20 & 23 have decided that they want nothing to do with me so if my fiance wants to see his kids, I can't be with him. So on Saturday we are out shopping and going to lunch and having a great day and they called him because they just woke up and wanted Chinese food - now. So we left the mall and he dropped me off at home and went to tend to them. By 7PM (on a Sat) when he still wasnt home, I went to the movies by myself.
He has developed a second life without me and it's like he's having an affair. He calls them in private - in the bathroom the other day... and won't answer the phone if they call in my presence. He has a lot of time off of work so he'll hang at his ex's house all day - but won't tell me. Anyway, I don't have to deal with their selfish disrespectful attitudes directly but it feels like I'm not worth even mentioning to them.
It's taken me six years but last night I told him I couldn't deal with him living 2 lives anymore. And tired of them dictating the terms of our relationship - what I can and cannot attend because they will be there. He truly wants to be around them even thought they treat him so horribly. I don't get it. I gave him an ultimatum that I will not be excluded any longer PERIOD.
My gut is telling me this will never, ever change and he will tell me what I want to hear until I leave. The ring is already off my finger which he is "hurt" about. I don't care! I've been hurt for years and yes I know it's my own fault.
Is there a way that some of you can actually have your husbands live 2 separate lives without it affecting you?