As I was reading another thread, a weight issue came up, and since my SD has a severe one, I thought i would share.
My SD is 15 and is seriously overweight. When i first met my husband, i was shocked to see his daughter so heavy, considering that he works out like crazy. His ex was very heavy, still is, and so i wasnt sure what to think yet.
As time went on, i pretty well learned what the issues were. Her bm never fed her what she and husband had to eat, and only fed her chicken nuggets and burgers and stuff. so now, she not only refuses to eat good food, but anything healthy. When we told her that she needed to eat what we had made for dinner, she would "gag" dramatically until she "couldnt" eat anymore, or she wouldnt eat at all. Now, we are not talking liver and onions, we are talking baked chickens and other "normal" foods with vegatables and fruits. Then come to find out she was sneaking food from the freezer, pantry and even others houses when she went over there to see friends. When we found this out, we took all junk food out of our house, so there would be no temptations. We started her on an excersice program, but she couldnt do that either because she got headaches, stomach aches, cramps, her ankles hurt, she was too hot and so on. And this was her choice of excercise.
After many many months of positive encouragement, we got her weight down noticably. she was feeling and looking good. THEN she goes to her bms for the summer. she gained every pound and then more in a time frame of 6 weeks!!! her bm will not feed her healthy foods, in fact, just the opposite, fried and greasy foods, cakes, cupcakes, cookies, and everything else. when husband confronted her about it, she said, no we are on a diet. and then had the audacity to tell my husband that she looked like she had gained weight from her time with us!! she was down 2-3 pant sizes and was excersing regularly with us!!!!
Needless to say, that now she lives down there with her bm, her weight has ballooned again, and all we can do is help her out when she is down with us for visits.
her bm complains about her weight, but refuses to do anything about it because then she would have to do something about her own weight issues. this woman is extremely messed up!!!!
anyway, i just wanted to share my experience with that.