Kids angry and fighting?
I'm in hopes that some of the SMs can give me some ideas/solutions on what to do when kids coming together from three different households get to bickering, teaming up against one, ect.
I've got all three kids coming up this next weekend, my 10 year old daughter, my GS8 (he lives between my son and his BM) and GS7 (he lives with my DD28 and her husband) and the 10 year old and 8 year old are angry at the 7 year old and the two don't want the GS7 to come.
Over the holidays I had them all for 'fun' time and special events, but the GS7 did some lying and tricking to get his own way which I was not aware of at the time it was happening. For example: we were going to a movie and kids usually decide on which one together or pull winning choice from a bowl, they view that as 'fair'. This time GS7 said he had already seen movie 'A' so I talked the kids into seeing movie 'B' which none of them had supposedly seen yet.
Turns out GS7 had not seen movie 'A' but had indeed seen movie 'B'. GS7 bragged to DD10 and GS8 on the way home from movies that they sure were fooled by him because he had seen the movie, wanted to see it again and he tricked Grandma because he did not want to see the other movie.
All heck broke out between the kids in the backseat, all trying to out shout the other and I ended up by-passing the pizza joint and taking them all home to eat. Which that in itself only caused more angry howls and now the DD10 and GS8 blame GS7 for not only being unfair in movie choice but also making them miss their favorite pizza.
And it was all for nothing as I would have taken them all to another movie the next day if that's what they wanted to do for fun the second day. We ended up by me selecting bowling and then sledding on day two and they could go or stay home with the hubby. They all came, had fun doing the choices but they still bickered and DD10 and GS8 were best buddies and all but ignored GS7 except to bicker.
I've never had this before, help me out?