I am so judgemental!

cube1067December 29, 2004

Saw the thread about us being single because we are so boring. How about admitting to personality or character traits that help to keep us single? LetÂs try not to digress into "happily single" mode. Just like most of you, I enjoy being single and would much rather stay single than be in a bad/stagnant/make-do relationship. But I think good relationships do exist. What might we be doing to keep ourselves out of a good relationship?

Me first. I am judgemental personified. Right now I am sitting in judgement of my coworkers. We are producing year-end paychecks and apparently weÂre having the same problems they encountered last year (I was hired this year). I sit here wondering why they did not fix the problems. My attitude comes out in my tone, my eyesÂ.everything I do. I find myself wanting to say "YouÂre lousy!" to my coworkers.

IÂm like that when I date men in their 30Âs and 40Âs who still live with their relatives, or who have unfurnished apartments, or junker cars, or low-wage jobs, or no savings. I feel like saying "Is this all you wanted to accomplish in life?"

No one likes to be judged. No one likes a know-it-all either. I have both those traits. So maybe thatÂs why IÂm better off single?

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I'm always attracted to the wrong type of guy. After a while we just don't have anything to talk about, nothing in common.

I also think I'm too independent for most men ... I have a good career, own and operate a small farm by myself, have a seasonal flower business, etc.

I really don't don't see anything wrong with being single, have seen too many bad relationships. AT this point in my life, I'm 45, I don't know if I could be part of a "couple".
I'm too used to doing things my way, living like I like to live.

Would definitely like to have a male "friend" to go places with and do things with ... but can't ever see myself living/sharing my space with someone.

So I do whatever I want! LOL!!! Travel, go out with friends, etc.

    Bookmark   December 29, 2004 at 3:29PM
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Cube (love that name), please don't be so hard on yourself.

I think you're being reasonable & practical, not judgemental!

As far as the job goes, I would place responsibility on management:
"Work" is *always* a place that exists to create & preserve as much money as possible.
Inefficiency costs money.
If year-end was a big ole mess last year, that was management's cue to change things.
They didn't.
Worker bees, no matter how knowledgeable or eager, can't change procedure.

And I don't think it's unreasonable to expect 30 or 40 year old guys to support themselves, pay their own rent on their own place, & have a decent work history.

I do agree with your premise:
that we narrow our fields by our own personalities, decisions, & behaviors.

    Bookmark   January 15, 2005 at 1:25PM
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