Is Honesty the Best Policy?
Last night I went out on a date with a nice, funny, smart and interesting man. We are scheduled to see each other for a fourth date on Sunday.
But...he's (quite) heavy. I don't know if I'll ever be able to be attracted to someone who carries around so much extra weight. I feel pretty shallow for caring, and like I should see beyond that to the good man he seems to be, but I don't seem to be able to get past this. So, do you think I should:
1) Work on getting over my body-type ism.
2) Make up a reason that I've decided not to pursue a relationship (ie: met someone else, etc).
3) Tell him the truth, that I can't see being attracted to him because of his weight.
4) Ask him if he'll consider dieting (I don't feel really comfortable with this option, since I do believe you should be willing to accept a person as they are, and not expect them to change for you).