Should I Break Up with Him?
I have been dating this guy for about 4 months. He's divorced with partial custody of his 2 kids (ages 12 and 16). We get along nicely. He has pursued me more than me him, and he has asked me to be monogamous which I agreed to. I have never met his kids, cause he is worried about me meeting them when we are still getting to know each other. I am fine with that. However, I just learned that he has his kids from Christmas Eve through to New Years Day. That doesn't bother me at all, except for New Years Eve. He said he can't spend New Years Eve with me because he has his kids that night. I told him that bothered me, which he said he couldn't understand.
I feel I am between a rock and a hard place. I have a boyfriend, yet no date for New Years Eve. I can either sit at home alone, or go out with my girlfriends to parties/bars, where I will be tempted to hook up with someone, or at least get that big kiss at midnight. But I can't cause I supposedly have a boyfriend, yet have no date for New Years Eve. Grrr. I feel embarassed at the whole situation. People ask me what he and I are doing New Years Eve, and I have to give the awkward explanation, that, um, I am not going to be with my boyfriend at New Years Eve. I tried telling him that I don't need to be at a party, but would be fine hanging out with him and his kids, watching TV at home, but he doesn't want to do that, cause I haven't even met his kids yet. I am thinking of breaking up with him cause I feel he has put me in a bad spot, I am depressed about being dateless New Years Eve, and I am not wanting a relationship that makes me feel depressed and resentful. Do you agree or not? Advice please!