Sex after the breakup
During our relationship, we had 'safe'and 'predictable' sex when we had it. That has changed since the breakup, so what do we do now? We wonder if we will ever have a satisfying relationship and whether we will be able to love or be loved again. This is a normal step in the recovery process.
Some newly single people want to get right back on the horse after splitting up with their SO, and the sooner the better. It's their way of reassuring themselves they are still desireable. Being dumped brings on low Self-esteem, feelings of failure, rejection and abandonment as well as incoherent decisions. Don't use immediate gratification to deal with your anger and damaged Self-esteem.
Vitally important is to NOT continue to have sex with your ex! You will only enable your pain, delay healing, and maintain false hope of reconciliation. You have very deep emotional wounds that need to be dealt with before you should consider starting your next intimate relationship.
This is just a start on the do's and don'ts of sex after the breakup - I hope both male and female responses will expound on what I have stated. It will be of benefit to all we newly-single folks, perhaps encouraging us to STOP repeating our past mistakes.