Just wondering for those of you who have lost your s/o to death, when did you start cleaning out his/her closet? My dh passed just over a month ago, and I havent started that project yet.
I started about 2 months after Gary passed away. My three sons took all his clothes, which made me feel good. I sold our home 6 months after his death - just couldn't stand to rattle around in that big old house we shared our love in. I retired 10 months after he passed away. A year and a half later, I have relocated to NW Florida and am much happier than I was in the Midwest - the only thing I would change would be that Gary could be here to enjoy retirement with me.
I had no trouble cleaning out the closets and I think it was because my husband had no interest in what he wore as long as his body was covered! I have still not cleaned out his office which is where he kept things important to him. His diplomas, awards, greeting cards and letters etc. I think it is best to start with things that were not so important to your husband. I called the Knights of Columbus which my husband belonged to and they picked up all of his clothes to donate to a men's shelter. I felt good about that.
Take your time and do things as you feel able. There is no time table. Good luck to you. Satine
You will know when it's time.
I'm not experienced in this area, but remember reading a touching article about it, where one woman kept her husband's closet as is, and would walk in and close the door and sense/smell her husband through his clothing, feel his sweaters, and she did this for about a year, until she felt she was strong enough to go forward in her life without his things being there.
Healing is progressive.