What do you really long for?

marilouAugust 5, 2004

Maybe it's Kay's hormones influencing me or something, but the last few days I have just been *craving* touch. Not a quick touch or hug, but running my hand over a man's forearm and taking in every hair, every muscle, every pore.

I found myself in la la land when I was supposed to be placing a food order after seeing a guy's arm yesterday.

Of course, I wouldn't want to stop with just the *arm* if I had the rest of the man to go with it! ;oD

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centralcacyclist

Oh, yes. Arms are nice aren't they. LOL! And hands. I occasionally work with a handsome photographer who sheds his shirt on hot studio days (known me a long time). La la land for me!

Yep, been alone too long, too. I crave leisurely Sunday morning breakfast in bed with a pot of good fresh ground coffee, a warm muffin, the big fat Sunday paper, and a snuggly someone to share it with before beginning the day. But as I recall those were the days before the mortgage, the lawn, the house chores, and the kids!

BarnMom

    Bookmark   August 5, 2004 at 2:44PM
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kayjones

Yes, Marilou, I have a 'raging hormone' problem - I love to be loved AND to love! LOL It has it's drawbacks, of course, but too few to mention. There is nothing SOFTER than a man when he's hard (to get along with - get your mind outta the gutter!). Sitting on a creek/lake bank at dawn or dusk, bringing coffee to a special someone, then laying in bed enjoying it and each other. I normally get up around 5:30 a.m., but when I have a special someone with me, it could be 8:00 a.m. before I give him up.

I have been loved by the best, and look forward to having wonderful and fulfilling love in my life for a long time to come.

    Bookmark   August 5, 2004 at 2:56PM
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marilou

Well I have enough hormones of my own, Kay. Quit sending yours over the internet! ;o)

OMG, BarnMom! You've *got* to get a photo of this photographer for us! Odds are, he's not single and nowhere near any of us. :o( But it sure would be nice to have the "Memorex" version if we can't have the real thing!!!

    Bookmark   August 5, 2004 at 3:50PM
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Wings2W

Intimacy. One thought, One heart, One soul.

I never understood the meaning before. I do now and perhaps has been my greatest lesson.

Wing

    Bookmark   August 5, 2004 at 6:43PM
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bunnyman

I don't know what I want. I do so love to be touched. Just part of being human. Most of my life I've been alone so I know the craving to be touched. Nothing more inhuman then sitting alone when your soul cries for the comfort of contact. Can't say I've ever wanted to reach out an touch another man's arm.

: )
michael

    Bookmark   August 6, 2004 at 2:02AM
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centralcacyclist

You know we just had a full moon! Not to put a damper on everyone's enthusiasm for "human contact" but didn't the singles forum get removed a while back because it got a little too risque? Correct me if I'm wrong!

Bunnyman, maybe not another man's arm but haven't ever seen a really great arm? Maybe it's just men's arms that have that sort of sinewy sensuality that is so appealing.

    Bookmark   August 6, 2004 at 12:35PM
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bunnyman

I'm pretty certain Spike would bop us if we got on to really "adult" topics. The GW is probably not picked up by porn filters so I wouldn't write anything unsuitable for children. On the other hand touch does not have to lead to anything more. As adults most of us shake hands with complete strangers everyday... touch is the ultimate communication for emotions.

I can't recall any remarkable arms on either gender. When looking over someone I don't spend much time on arms. There are some things I could probably name that I find attractive without being sent to the teacups but having just paid another year's dues I don't want upset anyone.

Ack... gonna be late for work if I don't get going.

: )
michael

    Bookmark   August 6, 2004 at 2:18PM
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marilou

"Sent to the teacups?" What does that mean, bunnyman?

    Bookmark   August 7, 2004 at 10:30PM
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bunnyman

Banned people get redirected to Disney and teacups refers to a ride at the park. Don't know first hand but that is what I'm told.

: )
michael

    Bookmark   August 8, 2004 at 1:36PM
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marilou

bunnyman wrote: "Nothing more inhuman then sitting alone when your soul cries for the comfort of contact."

Very well put. I know the feeling of my soul crying for contact. It's incredibly lonely, isn't it?

    Bookmark   August 8, 2004 at 6:37PM
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marilou

I've got another one: the scent of a man's after shave or cologne. (I've actually followed in the wake of them at WalMart, just to keep sniffing it!:o))

    Bookmark   August 9, 2004 at 1:54PM
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bunnyman

I guess I really long for that impossible relationship built on healthy affection and respect. I want somebody that likes me just the way I am. I want somebody that will let me be affectionate and respectful towards them without thinking me weak or stupid for doing so.

: )
michael

    Bookmark   August 10, 2004 at 3:28AM
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centralcacyclist

Michael, you are a special guy!

BarnMom

    Bookmark   August 10, 2004 at 12:12PM
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jessiecarole

a day off

a new key board for Walks

a vacation.....woohoo! I have already bought my ticket and will be spending a week in New England next month. It will be one of those self sufficient single woman vacations ~smile~ but I have new walking shoes and I am looking forward to not having to be anywhere at any certain time.

where is everyone? you will all congregate when I have gone to work.

Oh. I am also longing for a drink ~grin~ The hours I have been working make Absolut out of the question for now.

jc ;-)

    Bookmark   August 20, 2004 at 11:45AM
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Faulks_Z5

I am happy, but I want more close friends. Too many people come and go in my life and I find myself wanting them to stay put! I also miss the true intimacy of a male-female relationship which, IMHO, only a part involves human sexuality. True intimacy to me is the sharing of your innermost thoughts and feelings with your partner in open honesty without fear of judgement.

Here is an ecerpt from my journal yesterday:

The early morning and early evening hours are cool now. I lie in my bed at dusk with the windows open, the curtains pulled back, and my gaze is drawn toward the evening sky. The sun is unusually beautiful as it sets this time of the day, this time of the year. The geese flying south across the golden-purple horizon bring me much peace and joy as I watch another summer begin its first curtain call. Above the sounds of the neighborhood that drift across the cherry orchard and into my bedroom, comes the sweetest chorus of summer crickets, offering up their voices in a remarkable lullaby, singing me to sleep each night. Life is good for me. I recognize it as such and go to my knees in thankfulness.

    Bookmark   September 2, 2004 at 6:00PM
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lpinkmountain

Well it may be risque, but we are sensual beings, and I don't mean "sensual" with its narrow sexual connotations, I mean beings that thrive on stimulation from our senses. I think that modern life is waaaay to robotic and designed to deprive us of true sensuality. The tastes and textures of a good, lovingly handcrafted meal, the sound of live music, nature, the feel of the earth against our skin. I long for these things when I spend so much of my life in a box staring at a box. I'm sure a lot of moms with kids hanging on them all the time long for personal space, but I find myself feeling just the opposite, like I'm trapped in a plastic shell! It's a struggle sometimes to maintain contact, not just with humans but with anything living at all! But then I've been sick and very housebound lately.

    Bookmark   September 7, 2004 at 7:03PM
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Faulks_Z5

Oh, LPM, I didn't mean to diminish the value of our sexuality -- it's a very normal thing. I just think our culture puts far too much emphasis on what it should be. Especially in Hollywood, TV, fashions, and so forth.

Those things you mentioned (meals, music, nature, the earth) when shared with a partner are some of the things, or kinds of things, I meant when I talked about "true" intimacy. That's the saddest part of all to me in being single. Friends can understand only so much of us. An affectionate, caring, non-judgmental partner is priceless.

Carolyn

    Bookmark   September 8, 2004 at 12:01AM
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lpinkmountain

Well I'm a bit of a philosopher, especially about things natural. I think there is a profound lack of intimacy in the modern world, whether you are with a partner or not, and I think it begins with our disconnect/lack of intimacy with the natural world and our senses. But often times we have to anesthetize ourselves in order to survive the daily grind.

    Bookmark   September 8, 2004 at 10:51AM
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eiagaaf

Had to jump in on the theme of touch. I joined a seperated/divorce group at church, well they do a lot of hugging at the end of meetings. The first few meetings I was stunned, simply by all of the physical contact. I have 3 young children, so I have lots of human contact, but being hugged by 10 or 15 strangers was certainly wierd. I'm an old-timer now so it's all good! (Back to lurking)

    Bookmark   December 14, 2004 at 4:09PM
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