A message to women

JeanInWaMarch 3, 2006

I suppose if you switch the genders around, it could work for men too...

I found this on Craigslist....I did NOT write it myself, but I thought it was a very good message, and wanted to share it...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.

If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.

Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.

Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends". A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend. Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

Always have your own set of friends separate from his. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, speak up. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. You cannot change a man's behavior. Change comes from within. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are... even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less. Never let a man define who you are. Never borrow someone else's man. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. All men are NOT dogs. You should not be the one doing all the bending... compromise is two way street. You need time to heal between relationships... there is nothing cute about baggage... Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary... not supplementary. Dating is fun... even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are, and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted. Never move into his mother's house. Never co-sign for a man. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. Share this with other women and men (just so they know)... You'll make someone smile, another rethink her/his choices, and another woman prepare, and a man aware.

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eloise_ca

Excellent advice Jean! This definitely applies to either gender. I know just the person I am sending this to -- hope it helps.

    Bookmark   March 3, 2006 at 12:39PM
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asolo

Wow! Someone's figured it all out! Three little lines explains everything. Do this, don't do that and everything will work out and you'll stay safe.

    Bookmark   March 3, 2006 at 6:18PM
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lifenu4me

Thank you so very much. I am a widow and have been dating for six years. Your message has clearly shown me my mistakes in dating. Although I was left disappointed in my last relationship, I am thankful I can still feel and give love. Yes, there are good men and good women available, and with time, I will meet someone who will share a happiness in life and love. I'm taking it slow and keeping my chin up. My best to all.

    Bookmark   March 4, 2006 at 6:23PM
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