I'm reading a great book called "How to get out of debt, stay out of debt, and live prosperously". One interesting point of this book is to not think poor. By thinking poor, the author means thinking "I can't afford that". He says instead to tell yourself "I choose to spend my money on something else".
He also talks about treating yourself regularly to avoid thinking poor. It doesn't have to be something big, but you should do something regularly that is just a little outside frugal.
I've decided for me, it will be to get a dinette set. As you all know, DH has been unemployed for over a year so "We can't afford it" has become just about every other sentence I say all day long. We've also been married 15 years and have had the same hand me down, broken dining room table with 6 unmatched chairs since they were given to us for our first apartment. They don't look cool, like the unmatched furniture on Friends - they look like cheap, used-up junk. I can truely say that I hate few things in this world, but the dining room furniture is one of the few. I got a bonus at work, nothing huge but enough for a medium priced, medium quality dinette set. I immediately deposted the bonus to our savings, but I am pondering actually going to a furniture store and bying a table and matching chairs. I have been looking at garage sales since I started "saleing" 8 years ago but have never found any dining room furniture that's any better than what have. It wasn't until I read this book that I realized how much energy I'd spent hating that furniture for 15 years, but I have been unwilling to do anything about it because I always think poor.
Anyway, the book is a good read and I'm going to try to resist thinking poor from now on.