In more trouble than I thought
It's me again Hogan from the previous thread. I am doing everything I can to change our lifestyle. Trying to cut back on anything I can control, like gas and electric, food, entertainment etc. Just trying to give some of you alittle backround that did not read my previous thread.
My wife is the problem,in just two short days we had as many arguments about spending and how our life is different now. i thought I made everything perfectly clear about our situation but I guess I did not.
She went to the store and spent $133 on groceries. When I asked her why she spent so much, she got real defensive and said I bought what was ONLY on sale.Everything she bought was name brand and she also told me she bought more food than usual so that's why she spent more. I estimate its about one week of food with a FEW extra's ,
In the end her defense is IF YOU DO NOT LIKE THE WAY I SHOP YOU DO IT. I feel like she is my adversary instead of being a team. It is going to be a struggle because not only does she not get it but whenever we have a disagreement instead of coming up with a solution she says THEN YOU DO IT.
Then today she tells me how she still needs to buy those boots she been wanting to get and I said ok, well just use your $120 gift card you got for christmas from your class (she's a teacher) Oh no I spent that on this and that and she will just double talk the heck out of me.
I feel all alone in this, she has always been bad with money, and she is extremely defensive about it. If I bring up anything about why she spent so much on something she takes it as a personal attack and fiercely defends herself.
I hate to say it but 90% of our debt is from her bad judgement and bad spending habits. I am not perfect when it comes to finances but at least I realize when its time to put the BRAKES on spending. I don't know if I ever will get through to her, she is a strong willed person and maybe she partly blames me for being laid off.
I cannot monitor her spending around the clock,I just wish she would understand the gravity of the situation.